Saturday, January 22, 2011

Unprecedented Memory Memorialized

If we are given the power to know what the other person think of us, there cannot be friendship, marital bondage, and love with the kith and kin. But we presume that we have the ability of telepathy or mind reading etc. I read an article “Couple can communicate worse than strangers”. This led me to a popular idiomatic usage viz. “Familiarity breeds contempt”.

1.     Is Telepathy there? Will the science agree these phenomena viz. mind reading?
2.     “Familiarity Breeds Contempt”! Can we draw this for couples also?

I collected some articles regarding these facts. It is interesting to read. You can also add some more on these.

Telepathy is the transfer of information on thoughts or feelings between individuals by means other than the "five classic senses”. Although not a recognized scientific discipline, people who study certain types of paranormal phenomena such as telepathy refer to the field as parapsychology. Parapsychologists claim that some instances of telepathy are real. Skeptics say that instances of apparent telepathy are explained as the result of fraud, self-delusion and/or self-deception and that telepathy does not exist as a paranormal power. Whether we know it or not, we're all street-corner psychics. Without the ability to divine others' thoughts and feelings, we couldn't handle the simplest social situations—or achieve true intimacy with others.

Every day, whether we're pushing for a raise, wrestling with the kids over homework, or judging whether a friend really likes our latest redecorating spree, we're reading each other's minds. Drawing on our observations, our databank of memories, our powers of reason, and our wellsprings of emotion, we constantly make educated guesses about what another person is thinking and feeling. Throughout the most heated argument or the most lighthearted chat, we're intently collecting clues to what's on the other person's mind at the moment. It's a perceptual ability we call mind sight. It allows our brain to create a map of another person's internal state.

People's intuition is that learning more about a new acquaintance will lead to greater liking. In fact, on average, we like other people less the more we know about them.
Psychologists believe that when two people know each other too well they assume too much shared knowledge and their language becomes dangerously ambiguous. This "closeness communication bias" can lead to long term misunderstandings, rows and even relationship problems, they believe. Often couples and good friends communicate with each other no better than they do with strangers. Sometimes they are clearer with strangers because they assume no common knowledge. It is evident that "the proper basis for a marriage is mutual misunderstanding", the phenomenon could cause problems. "People commonly believe that they communicate better with close friends and spouses than with strangers”. But in reality it is not so.

"That closeness can lead people to overestimate how well they communicate. Your language can become so ambiguous. The brain becomes lazy. "But it can backfire and the misunderstanding can lead to rows in the future.